Should I Text My Ex Boyfriend?
“We broke up… so is it bad to be texting my ex boyfriend?”
This is a very common question nowadays and one that lots of girls ask me after they suffer a breakup. After all, it seems harmless, and sometime you agreed to be friends so… texting should be okay, right?
Well, yes and no. I’m assuming that since you’re here, you’re trying to get back together with your ex. In that case, do NOT text him for at least 3 weeks after the breakup. You need to show that you’re not desperate. But after 3 weeks, you should ABSOLUTELY use text as a tool to try to win him back.
The simplest reason is that texting is easy. Texting is low-commitment and nonthreatening for both you and your ex, making it the perfect way to slip back onto his radar. But you have to do it the right way. Don’t just wing it and expect good results.
The best texts to get your ex boyfriend back:
- Are short
- Are non-confrontational and non-needy
- Encourage a response but don’t require one
The last point is most important. You don’t want to ask for a response, otherwise if he doesn’t response it will make you look really bad, and your chances will be all but gone. Instead, I prefer a one-word, non-sequitur text that confuses him and encourages (but doesn’t require) a response. Examples
- “Okay!”
- “Yes”
- “Leaving”
If he replies, “Leaving what?” You reply, “oops I meant to send that to my girlfriend! haha that was weird though, how’ve you been?”
Do you see how that works? If he replied in the first place, it’s a good sign he’d at least entertain the idea of getting back together – otherwise he’d have ignored you completely. You’ve also bruised his ego slightly – you weren’t even trying to text him in the first place. Now you’ve got his attention, and you can slowly escalate chit chat into subtle flirting.
Note: Be sure to say you were trying to text your girlfriend, and not your friend “Tom” or something. That way he won’t think you were trying to make him jealous – and he’ll also wonder if you were telling the truth…
